The thing I hate the very most about things like Facebook and forums and so on is how people sometimes use it to deliberately hurt another. It is almost like they think hiding behind their online presence gives you permission to treat another person like rubbish. Now for most of it Facebook and forums and so on can be really useful. It is a great way to connect with others. It is a great way to stay in touch, but sadly some people just go a bit too far.
Recently as I was browsing through the latest news feed updates just to see what was happening, I saw a rather sad status update. A husband who commented that his wife hated him. Hmmm. And of course suddenly all his contacts started commenting and responding - each one with his / her own opinion and in between his wife started responding too, her sister got involved, his mum started pleading with him, and so the accusations started. His wife tried to get him to stop posting on Facebook. She kept apologising to the "audience", that he had a bit much to drink and so on and so on. Let's just say that by the end of it they pretty much agreed to getting a divorce. I only commented once and that was to say that I was sorry they seemed to be going through a rough time, that perhaps they needed to discuss with each other and to ask if he could please remove the status update. Because really - this had nothing to do with any of us. The next morning there was only one quick update from him. To apologise for what he said.
And I wondered - how do you fix this? How do you fix something after you practically destroyed another person? Humiliated them in front of a large audience? How do you gather up the pieces after you shared it in such a very public setting? How do you take back what was said?
One thing I clearly saw on this day is that Facebook and alcohol really really don't mix! I've seen people do some really stupid things after they had a couple of drinks, but put something like Facebook in the mix and I think it becomes a rather risky situation!